Gender has been the subject of much discussion in Hungary in recent years, and Hungarian citizens were even asked about gender reassignment in the referendum held on 3 April. Meanwhile, a few weeks ago, the new German coalition government came up with a bill that would allow even people under 14 to legally change their sex. How should we approach these issues if we are not satisfied with the simplistic language of domestic government propaganda, and what is gender today? What does the researcher say, who has her criticisms of the trans movement, but also firmly rejects the politics of stigmatisation?